September 17th is my official birthday, although I celebrate it with my friends before my birthday and after my birthday. Some make birthday resolutions. Others hide from the day because it is one more candle on the cake. Who wants to age past 29?
This year is my 49th birthday. Age never bothered me since I never paid attention to it. If I am slowing down it’s because I have not taken care of myself like I should. I have cut back on my exercising, starting eating wheat again, and diet coke has crept back into my life.
Next year is the big one. 50. For those of you who are younger than me, I think turning 50 will be so much scarier than turning 30 was. Next year, I will have a child in college with another one on the way. Where did life go? So, if I can give advice to those younger than me, it would be to slow down and enjoy the moment.
When you have four children, work, and take care of a home, days and weeks just fly. Over the years, I have tried to rein in the amount of sports and activities my kids did because it consumed our family life. Of course, my kids never understood because they would rather play ball then go on a family hike or adventure. Going to a museum? No way. I regret that I did not start taking them when they were younger. Perhaps it would have ended the same way with my kids running the minute I mentioned doing any of the above.
So, this is my last year in my forties. Will everything start falling apart in my fifties? Will I view it as just another couple of years? Will I look like my parents did in their fifties?
When I turned forty, I had a huge party and invited all my friends. Everyone was having parties. It was a fun thing to do. 40 is the new 30 I would hear. But now as I am turning 50 next year, I noticed that fewer of my friends are having parties. What changed?
So as I approach this last year in my forties, what would I like to do this year?
1. I would like to go back to my exercise regimen where I did something 5 days a week. I have a lot of great clothes in my closet that I can’t wear because I gained weight.
2. I used to horseback ride. I stopped doing this. It was fun except when the horse liked to step on my foot.
3. I have been working on making cushions for my upstairs for THREE years!!! I do a little and then I stop.
4. I would like to spend less time blogging and have more people visit my blog without the late night efforts I put in.
5. I have to pass the LEED exam to become a LEED expert. When I went to the class, I thought, this is going to be easy. My house is practically built using the same standards. How different can commerical construction be? I had a 400 page book to read (which I finally finished) and thought it was easier to take the law bar exam. There is so much detail and little picky things to learn, I am not looking forward to this exam. I haven’t studied for anything in at least 20 years.
6. Spend more time with my family. I don’t get to see my relatives very much since they live far away. My kids don’t get the benefit of living near their cousins and growing up with them. Everyone has a great time when we are together but with busy schedules and costs of gasoline and flights, it is harder and harder to see everyone. We tend to see everyone when there is a party or a death. This is so sad.
7. Spend quality time in my garden. I wish my kids would garden with me but they just think it is a chore. I have mentioned it many times that it blows my mind when I watch the bees at work. Crickets jump around the beds to avoid me. Butterflies hover over my heads as I weed. Mother Nature is an amazing woman.
I would love to partner up with someone who will cook what I grow. I don’t like to cook and tend to eat veggies right off the vine in my garden. I only love to grow plants. My husband will cook but he is not into taking my herbs and veggies and doing something special with them. Perhaps I should move to a co-op?
So, hear are my question for you, my readers:
Treat me like an old friend. What would you wish me for my birthday year?
AND What would you wish for yourself if it was your birthday?
If you don’t want to respond to my question, just wish me a happy birthday. What a great birthday gift.
Photo by Ishikawa Ken .